My Intention - Sharing my personal Truth


As a child, growing up in Barcelona, Spain, I was very independent. As the youngest of four children, I often ended up looking after myself. My mother tells me at age three I would leave the house to play with my best friend Raul, and wouldn’t come home again until I was hungry. 

I remember having this thought in my mind “why my family is so strange?”. And, actually, writing about it in my diaries. I grew as a very rebel teenager looking for the acceptance more outside home than inside.

During my late teens I experienced bulimia, which I battled with for 10 years. Eventually, after years of therapy, I realised one day that I did not want to be that person anymore. It was this decision that empowered me to overcome the mental illness. I strongly believe that regardless of how much therapy I could have had in my life, ultimately the decision to change had to be mine.

Following my recovery I needed to explore who I really was, so I set off to travel the world alone. I arrived in the UK and began exploring Europe, with London as my base in-between countries. I had plans to explore more Australia or America next, but then I met my husband and settled here in London, where I’ve been living for the last eight years. Now we are 3 in the family!

Motherhood was my greatest wish come true but it slapped me in the face. I was unprepared for the reality of it, because it is not something that society talks openly about. Also, I didn’t have any family support so I felt very alone at the beginning. Four years on, my beautiful girl is teaching me every day who I am, how to become a better person and to love unconditionally. Be a mother but also a woman, a human being. She hasn’t improved my ability to be patient though!

Grieving 3 deaths, from 3 important people in my life, in a period of 3 months, one of them my dad, forced me to stop my life, pay attention and take care of myself. New perspectives of life came to me, what I thought it was good before it needed a revision to be again in core of my values.

All these events made me reinvent in every stage of my life. Like playing with play-dough, reshaping who you are, your identity, your thoughts, your values….

It’s a journey I’m taking with myself and also with my clients. Learning about how other people really feel and relate to who they are in their journey is what inspires me.

In a period of big changes (job, house, relationships...), Alejandra helped me not to feel overwhelmed by the coming together of all of them, to tackle every single element at a time, and to see their positive sides when I could see only difficulties. She helped me to see the big picture and realize some qualities of mine in the way I am approaching this situation, which I had underestimated, or not recognised.
— Elisabetta Scantamburlo, art curator and translator